Thursday, August 21, 2008

How do you teach

So its been a rather interesting day,well actually not so much as interesting as long.
My mother and sister sent us a package that we recieved today. This package has been the hype all week for my son, because they mention things in it when they talk to him on the phone. Everyone loves stuff right? Yes, just as usual, my mother sends him, and KonnorBear, a gift, in which they wrapped up.
Almost immediately upon picking it up out of the box Jordan began to open it. No big deal, except he wasnt positive that was even his, so I stopped him midway, he still ended up going ahead and opening it. It ended up being a power ranger toy, blue ranger to be exact. He quickly ran it to his brother, believing this one is for his little brother.
Well, no, the other package had Konnors name written on it. I waited for Konnor to come down and gave the package to Konnor to open, and of course, Jordan was angry. I told him that he didnt even know if it was a power ranger toy, he was still upset with me.

It turned out to not be a power ranger toy, and so Jordan finally realized that the blue ranger was the toy he recieved as a gift from his grandparents.

At this point I made sure that they did not hear this whining from my son.
And had my children (and yes both of them) call them to thank them for the great school supplies and school clothes and the toys they recieved.

Of course a little later after we had talked to them and thanked them for the great stuff, both boys played a bit with their toys, and then my oldest (jordan) came to me and asked me to call his grandmother.

This was the conversation he started having with her.

" I didnt want the blue ranger, I wanted the other color ranger" in his whining soft muddled 4 year old voice.
"what did you want" grandma says back.
"I didnt want the blue power ranger" Jordan muddles out again.
"What did you want then?" grandma asks again.
"The green ranger" grandma says
"the red ranger" she adds in.
"yes the red ranger" Jordan says a little louder this time.

At this point I have broken into the conversation and I am taking the phone away from my son and sending him to the stairs (time out for us) and I proceed to tell my mother I am sorry that he was acting like a spoiled brat.
My husband and I are not raising him that way and I really have no idea why it still happens. I knew some of it was the age he's at, but I know that its not all just that.

So after that I went to speak with him, just talking with him didnt make him understand (although cry of course) even though no loud words were used and no mean words were used either, (it was just the thought of never recieving a toy again in his life that hurt)
So I finally, I decided to provide an example. My example was that of him picking me flowers and giving me a flower which he does occasionally. So we headed outside to the front yard where I asked him to get me a flower. He picked me out a flower and gave it to me and I said no I want a red one. He didnt quite get it, but went back to get me a red flower.
brought me back a red one and I said no I want a blue flower, at this point, he started to cry. (My example was over) and I asked him to come to me.

I asked him if I hurt his feelings. And then asked if he thought what he said hurt his grandmas feelings.
It took a minute of explaining more, but then he asked to go call his grandmother.

Then he STILL didnt learn the lesson as he was speaking to my sister.
He tells her that he doesnt want anymore toys or need anymore toys (this would have come from me trying to explain the difference between needs and wants).

So I had to take a moment and explain once again.

This time, I think he finally got it. and He apologized to my "mom" (who wouldnt be available to speak to him so my sister pretended to be her)
and I think he really did understand this time around.

Lets hope.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Just spending our last week together

It's been a somewhat relaxed yet hectic summer. We didn't do anything we wanted to do for our boys because well, the funds weren't quite there most of the time. Trying to save for the medical bills that having number three will bring us, along with getting diapers for number three.
It was a family event finding out that number three will be Logan, so that was an interesting day.
We added animals to our family as well.

Now, with less than a week away, Jordan starts Prek at our local early learning preschool. Yeah those of you who know me are probably thinking, didnt he go to school last year. Yes he did. But he went for two hours, only two days a week. He will now go five days a week, from 7:50 am to 2:50 pm. I've anticipated him starting school, but now that its happening, I'm a little sad.
We didn't really go school shopping, I mean what on earth could a four year old prek student NEED for school. But I've always been excited to take my kids back to school shopping and bonding during it, as my mom and I did growing up.
What school shopping I did do, Jordan wasn't very interested in. I guess I keep forgetting, he is only four.

So on that note, we've got KonnorBear who we really believe will have issues with his big bubba going away ALL day long all week.
We are going to start our own Prek program at home now that we'll have a little extra time, but I still have loads left to sew for Logan, and I just have no clue how I'm going to entertain Konnor and get things done.

So I am losing a child during the day, to school, but gaining a child who will be so bored and so upset and who can't entertain himself for even the slightest five minutes. Unlike Jordan was able to do at this age. And if you're starting to think, naptime would be a great time. If I am lucky enough to get him to take a nap, It's usually because I'm compeltely beat and i hold him down and he'll finally fall asleep. If I do that when I'm just not completely exhausted, I'll become exhausted and fall asleep with him anyway. So that idea really is shot out the door.

I still have several blankets to make for Logan and his bigger brothers to share with him.
Along with adding the snaps to our prefolds. (which I NEED to take to the hospital with me).
Plus I need to work on the soakers, and the pants for covering his diapers. And then I would love to finally get around to making some clothes for him. Cute outfits for the winter, and our travelling. Not only that, I still have to finish the house!
We still need an entertainment center for upstairs. Plus I need to reupholster the sectional couch down stairs. Which I keep saying I'll do it today, but havent done that yet.
I will soon though. Maybe today, if I can muster up some energy to do it.
I also keep saying I will work on the yarn doll for Konnor and then maybe eventually make one for Logan. Of course his is not even half finished.

I really need an automactic knitting machine, cause I think its just I'm no good at knitting.

So on my agenda today... play with my kids!